Hi, I am Kim, Daniel's gf. It is not easy to be with Daniel because he has borderline personaility disorder. I did some research on the internet and our quarrel over $50 was due to one of his anger outburst at someone he loves as this is one of the symptoms with people with BPD. I am not very bothered with counting money but I do believe that guys should pay for girls. However, Daniel is not exactly unreasonable as I recount the past. It is just his BPD problem, things like obsessing with fighting, the army, substance abusing, breaching the law are part of BPD. I do feel bad for his father who gives him money but what can I do? When I ask him to go to work he is not bothered, I am still scratching my head. So to you girls who are watching this blog very carefully as to when we break up, well, be prepared for big headaches with this guy. Bad enough he is DAMN goodlooking, you got to see him in person to believe me, he is also a very kind, gentle and the sweetest guy you will ever meet. But be warned by me, you better do alot of research on BPD AND the cure. THere is none except what his shrink told him, the answer for him is a relationship. Maybe God wants me to save this guy. THrough interaction with him and providing a good example of responsibility and reality, perhaps he will slowly change for the good. But be always mindful never to push him too much, because if you really love him, you will understand that being BPD is a very painful position to be in , physically, mentally and emotionally. Why is he BPD? I found out from the net, sexual abuse as a child. When questionsed, he told me that that is correct only today. I guess his parents accidentally left him with a JW uncle and neglected him resulting in him being like that. It is not his fault. Is it his parent's fault? I guess not too. Because both his parents have to work. I just wish and pray that his father will be more understanding because his parents are now abandoning him.
Written by Kim
